Be Me

What is Be Me?

We designed Be Me to help you take control of your decisions and create a life that is reflective of who you are right now. Divorce can change so many aspects of life from finances to parenting to career and where you live. All those changes and the decisions you need to make to re-design your life can be overwhelming. No one else can tell you exactly how to make those decisions or how to create the life that will make you happy. Not your attorney, not your friends, not your spouse. Only you can choose what is best for you. What we do is give you the tools and support to help grow your confidence to make those decisions and manage those changes, along with the emotions that come with it, from the right place and for the right reasons.

Be Me will help you be happier and feel confident as you navigate the divorce process. Your actions determine what you accomplish and what you experience in your life. It’s important to choose actions that give you the support and awareness to make good decisions and move forward into a new way of being. You may not have chosen this, but it is here, and you can either allow fear and worry to spiral you down, or you can put your energy into something positive that will benefit YOU. Which is a great outcome of an otherwise difficult situation.

As you go through the legal, emotional and logistical experience of divorce, your work with Be Me will allow you to trust that you have put in the work to be at peace with your choices and whatever follows. The biggest gift any of us can have is peace of mind – this means knowing that you’ve done all you can do to create the best life for you on the other side.

Be Me might be right for you if...

--You’re feeling overwhelmed by or second guessing all the decisions required for your divorce

--You feel like this divorce is “happening to you” or not what you want

--You struggle to speak up for what you want both in your relationship and now in your divorce

--Each time you interact with your spouse or opposing counsel it triggers feelings of anger or sadness

--Your focus is more on the “Why did this happen?” than, “Where do I go from here?”

--You struggle to see a new life on the other side of your divorce

--You’re beating yourself up for “letting this happen”

--You worry about how to show your best self to your kids through this process

--You could use something positive to focus your time and energy on right now because you’re having a hard time feeling on solid ground as the world around you keeps changing.

Are you feeling any of the above (or more than one)?

Here's some positive results from our participants about their experience with our Be Me course during their divorce:

"I’m feeling more hopeful that I can work my way through this divorce and handle what comes. I am clearly looking at some of the choices I made during my marriage and how I want to be more in charge of my life going forward."

"I want my kids to see that you can confront the hard stuff. I want to be strong for them so they can learn this and that means I’m being strong for me too."

"The rating system was useful for me. I was able to look back at my week and notice that I had more good days than bad. It made me think this is doable, I can get through this."

"I am already taking action more and deciding that I want to be more in charge of my own life. I’m coming to terms with the separation and realize that I may never fully understand all what happened. I am finding I need the explanation less and am more focused on moving forward."

"This course helped me change the negative stories and perspectives I have held for so long."

“My lawyer was my expert in the law. Blue Binder Project was my expert in creating my new life.”

"I’m learning new perspectives as, in the past, I’ve focused more on my duty as a dad and husband than on what I wanted.
Working through the shock of the divorce and understanding what was unhealthy about my marriage was very helpful."

"Without this course, I never would have thought I had the courage to do all this and I’m very proud of myself. I was tired of waiting on my ex to make the decisions about the divorce and excited to take charge of my life."

"I am thinking quite a bit about feeling worthy and speaking up about what I want in my life, not just going along with what others want. I want to discover my own version of life that I can be excited about."

"I’m grateful for Blue Binder Project. Divorce is tough no matter what. I’m going through the process and dealing with all those feelings and figuring out how to get to the other side. Ending a long-term relationship even though it wasn’t a good one, is still hard. And I don’t know how people do it without something like this."

"I am a huge fan of this course! It has empowered me not to care about what my ex says about me, has helped me not be upset by things- it kind of slides right off. I think it’s necessary for anyone going through a divorce.

"I am beginning to find my own strength and voice again, something that I seem to have lost touch with over the past years."

"This course helped me sort through my feelings, it was a place of security to have conversation with myself about what was happening. It helped me reframe how I thought about myself, what I wanted. I learned I don’t have to be who I was in the marriage. It’s hard to imagine transitioning into where I am now without this course. I’m grateful for the guidance.